Emotional Amnesia: Why You Forget How You Felt and What Helps
Can you remember what happened but not how it felt? Here is what people mean by emotional amnesia, why it happens, and gentle ways to reconnect with your feelings.
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You know, logically, that the danger is over. It happened years ago, or months ago, and you are safe now. And yet your shoulders live up near your ears, your stomach clenches when a door slams, and sitting still in a quiet room can feel strangely unbearable. Talking about it helps, but only up to a point. Your body doesn't seem to have heard the news.
That gap between what your mind knows and what your body feels is why so many people look for somatic exercises to release trauma. "Somatic" just means "of the body." These are simple, body-based practices that help you notice physical sensations, settle your stress response, and build a felt sense of safety, one small step at a time.
This guide walks you through 12 gentle somatic exercises you can try at home, with clear steps for each. It also covers what these practices can and can't do, how to go slowly so you don't overwhelm yourself, the signs that tell you to stop, and when it's better to work with a trained somatic or trauma therapist.
After a frightening or overwhelming experience, the body's threat system can stay on high alert. You might feel jumpy, tense and wired, or the opposite: flat, heavy, numb and far away. Many people swing between the two. If you're not sure whether that describes you, our guide to signs of trauma covers the common physical and emotional patterns.
Somatic exercises for trauma work from the bottom up. Instead of starting with thoughts and memories, they start with sensations: the feeling of your feet on the floor, the rhythm of your breath, the weight of your hands. The idea is that by giving your nervous system repeated, small experiences of safety and control, you widen the range of feelings you can handle without tipping into panic or shutdown.
You'll often hear that trauma is "stored in the body" and that the right exercise will "release" it. That's a popular way of describing things, and many people find it meaningful, but it isn't an established scientific finding. We cover the evidence in more depth in trauma release explained. What is better supported is that trauma changes how the body responds to stress, and that body-focused practices can help people feel calmer, more grounded and more in control.
The research on these specific exercises is still thin. As exercise physiologist David Creel tells Cleveland Clinic, there's very little research on the health benefits of somatic exercises themselves, although related practices such as yoga, tai chi and mindfulness have been studied more. So think of these as supportive tools for regulation, not a cure, and not a replacement for proven trauma treatment.
Most somatic approaches, including Peter Levine's Somatic Experiencing, lean on two principles. A 2015 paper in Frontiers in Psychology by Levine and colleagues describes them this way:
Keep both in mind as you try the somatic exercises below. Less is usually more.
Somatic exercises for trauma can stir things up. That's not a sign you're doing it wrong, but it does mean going carefully.
These somatic healing exercises are listed roughly from the most stabilizing to the slightly more activating. You don't need to do all of them. Pick two or three that feel okay and practice those for a week or two.
Orienting is what animals do when they check their surroundings for danger. When your threat system is stuck "on," deliberately orienting can help it register that you're safe right now.
This is one of the gentlest exercises here, and a great one to come back to whenever another practice feels like too much.
If you tend to feel floaty or disconnected, try rocking slowly from heels to toes, or stamping lightly a few times to wake up the sensation.
The butterfly hug was developed by Lucina Artigas while working with survivors of Hurricane Pauline in Mexico in 1998, and is now widely used in EMDR therapy as a way to self-soothe.
Keep the pace slow and steady. Fast tapping can feel more stimulating than calming.
This simple self-holding exercise is commonly taught in Somatic Experiencing and other body-based therapies.
If touch is part of what feels unsafe for you, skip this one or try placing your hands on a pillow held against your body instead.
This becomes your "anchor" spot, the calm place you can return to during pendulation and whenever things feel intense.
Pendulation teaches your nervous system that you can touch discomfort and come back out of it.
Over time, many people find the uncomfortable sensation softens a little. If it grows stronger instead, stay with your resource or switch to orienting.
Peter Levine popularized this sound-based breathing exercise. It works by lengthening your exhale and creating a gentle vibration in your chest and belly.
You'll sometimes hear that this "tones the vagus nerve." That idea comes from polyvagal theory, which is popular but debated among researchers. What's clear is that long, slow exhales tend to feel calming for many people.
When trauma involved feeling trapped or powerless, the body may have been stuck in a "can't fight, can't run" state. This exercise lets you experience your own strength in a safe way.
Many people find this one of the most helpful somatic exercises when they feel frozen or shut down. Our guide on getting out of a functional freeze response has more ideas for that state.
This is not the same as TRE (tension and trauma releasing exercises), which deliberately brings on tremoring. It's simply a light, voluntary shake to discharge some energy.
If you're curious about TRE itself, our guide to trauma release exercises at home explains how to approach it safely.
Sometimes the most helpful thing is not to feel more, but to put something aside for now. Containment exercises give you a sense of boundaries, inside and out.
This is especially useful at the end of a hard day or after a therapy session that stirred things up.
Like the other body-based trauma exercises here, it works through rhythm and sensation. Rhythmic movement is something humans have used to soothe themselves for a very long time. There's nothing silly about it.
Choose one or two simple stretches, such as rolling your shoulders, opening your chest, or a gentle forward fold. Move slowly and pay attention to sensation rather than how far you can go. Stop well short of strain. If you're drawn to the hips specifically, our article on somatic hip stretches looks at what's real and what's hype.
Somatic healing exercises should leave you feeling a little more settled, or at least no worse. Stop, orient to the room, and ground through your feet if you notice:
Stopping isn't failure. It's titration in action. Return to the exercise another day, for a shorter time, or skip that one altogether.
With somatic exercises, consistency matters more than intensity. A few minutes every day tends to help more than an hour now and then.
| When | Try this | Time |
|---|---|---|
| Morning | Grounding through your feet, then orienting | 2 minutes |
| Stressful moment | Butterfly hug or voo breath | 1 minute |
| Feeling stuck or frozen | Push against a wall, then shake it off | 2 minutes |
| Evening wind-down | Self-holding, then containment | 5 minutes |
| Weekend practice | Resource and pendulation | 5 to 10 minutes |
Some people like to keep a short note of which exercises help and which don't. Patterns usually appear within a couple of weeks. For more options that focus on everyday calm rather than trauma specifically, see our collections of nervous system regulation techniques and quick somatic exercises for regulation.
Self-guided body-based trauma exercises can be a lovely support, but they have limits. This article isn't a substitute for professional mental health care, and it's worth getting support if:
The treatments with the strongest evidence for post-traumatic stress disorder are trauma-focused talking therapies. The NHS lists trauma-focused cognitive behavioral therapy and EMDR, sometimes with medication such as an antidepressant, as the main options. Body-oriented therapies like Somatic Experiencing and sensorimotor psychotherapy are promising: a 2017 randomized controlled trial of Somatic Experiencing with 63 people, published in the Journal of Traumatic Stress, found improvements in PTSD and depression symptoms compared with a waitlist. But the evidence base is smaller, and these approaches are often best used alongside established treatment.
When looking for a somatic therapist, check that they're also a licensed mental health professional, ask about their trauma training, and notice whether they prioritize your sense of safety and go at your pace. Our article on the stages of trauma recovery explains why stabilization usually comes before processing memories.
If you're in crisis or thinking about harming yourself, please reach out now. In the US, call or text 988. In Canada, call or text 988 or call Talk Suicide on 1-833-456-4566. In the UK and Ireland, call Samaritans on 116 123. In Australia, call Lifeline on 13 11 14. If you're in immediate danger, call your local emergency number.
The idea of "releasing" trauma from the body is a popular metaphor rather than an established scientific finding. What somatic exercises can do is help calm an overactive stress response, build body awareness, and give you a sense of safety and control, which can make life and trauma therapy feel more manageable. Research on the specific exercises is limited, so they're best seen as supportive tools, not a cure.
Paying attention to your body can bring up feelings that have been pushed aside, and tears, shaking, yawning or a sudden sense of sadness are common. Mild emotion that passes is usually okay. If you feel overwhelmed, panicky or disconnected, stop, orient to the room and ground through your feet, and consider working with a trauma-informed therapist before trying more.
Short and regular tends to work best, such as a few minutes once or twice a day. Start with two or three of the most stabilizing exercises, like orienting and grounding, and add others slowly over a few weeks. There's no benefit to pushing through distress, and doing too much at once can backfire.
They can stir things up, especially for people with severe or complex trauma, and some exercises can trigger flashbacks or dissociation. That's why going slowly, keeping sessions short, and stopping when you notice warning signs matters so much. If exercises regularly make you feel worse, it's a sign to get support from a qualified trauma therapist rather than continue alone.
TRE (tension and trauma releasing exercises) is one specific method that uses a series of postures to deliberately bring on body tremors. Somatic exercises are a much broader group of body-based practices, such as orienting, grounding, self-holding and pendulation, many of which focus on calming and stabilizing rather than shaking. Most people find it easiest to start with the gentler stabilizing exercises.
Somatic exercises to release trauma aren't about forcing anything out of your body. They're about offering your nervous system small, repeated experiences of being safe, grounded and in charge, until those experiences start to feel familiar. Progress is often quiet: a slightly easier breath, a little less bracing, a moment of feeling at home in your own skin. Those moments count.
Your next step can be tiny. Tonight, try just one exercise for two minutes. Orienting to the room is a good place to start. Afterward, notice one thing in your body that feels even a little different, and let that be enough for today.
MSc Psychology
Amarha Fatimah holds an MSc in Psychology and has three years of experience in the field. At RegulatedSelf, Amarha writes about anxiety, stress and emotional regulation, turning psychological research into clear, practical guidance readers can use in everyday life.
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